There’s something every beginner needs to know about the first anal sex and preparing their man love hole for this. For all of you who have never tried it, we understand the shivers. However, those of you who have been sticking it up the butt for a while now, you know where the thrill comes from, don’t ya? Sure you do, you devil.

Why the drama?

Having first anal sex may be very painful if not done right. Plus, it’s not really what you’d call conventional which is why most are getting very fussy about it. On top of it, the first association linked to the rectum is… well, a big number 2. So that’s kind of ewww. Nevertheless, anal sex is a must in relationship and there’s nothing we can do about it – except skip it or enjoy it.

Why do we love it?

It’s tight. Well, tighter than the vagina which is making penile rubbing way more intense and orgasm – much pleasurable. Further, there’s the “forbidden” factor that gets everyone going. Simple as that.  Oh and – don’t think a guy is gay simply because he enjoys anal – it’s all about tight rubbing, remember?

What if I want to try it?

If you’re sure you want to go up that narrow stream (pun intended!) first consult with your partner. Don’t ever force him/her into something they aren’t comfortable with. Once they say YES, follow our guidelines below and have the most pleasurable penetration ever:

1. Make sure you are clean

This one goes without question; if you are going to have anal your anus has to be sparkling clean, so clean you may lick stuff off of it (and you probably will).

First things first, avoid any type of food that’s too spicy or anything that will give you a loose stool. Yes, it does sound gross but that’s the reality of it. Second, schedule a full internal and external cleansing. This is not something all couples do but most go by it. Third, have a shower.

2. Be Safe

Just because you can’t get pregnant from anal sex it doesn’t mean you can’t catch an STD. This is especially true if it’s the receiving partner’s first time, due to very small skin tears in the anus and rectum. Protect yourself and your partner by wearing condom, using PrEP, and getting tested regularly.

3. Use Proper Lubricant

As rectum is very tight and sensitive, forcing a penis into it without having it lubed first may cause very heavy pain and tearing. This is why using the proper type of lube will make all the difference and your experience extremely pleasurable. We recommend using Silicon lube as you won’t need to continuously reapply J

4. Don’t go back and forth

The stuff you see in porn? Don’t do it. Going anal – oral – anal (some call this ass to mouth) is one of the most unhygienic things you can do, and can cause heavy infections that are hard to treat. Plus, it’s gross. If you want to exercise all three options, go with oral – anal and stick to the pattern.

5. Relax your sphincter muscle

Your anal sphincter is placed at the entrance of your anus and it plays a crucial role in how much you enjoy anal sex. This muscle can’t relax very quickly which is why you need to be very careful. However, once the muscle does relax, it can stretch quite a bit.

The key to having it relax is to actually be mentally into anal sex. An added way to “prepare it” is to slip a lubed finger in there and hold it in place for a few minutes. Try fingering a bit until the muscle relaxes. You can also use a butt plug for added stimuli. Don’t force anything, just follow your partner’s reactions.

For all of you anal sex enthusiasts out there, anal sex is great if both partners are willing to be patient and experiment with each other’s bodies. Communicate, appreciate, and stimulate that prostate!

Peter Minkoff

Peter Minkoff

Freelance Writer

Peter is a gay lifestyle writer for TheGayUk magazine from Brisbane, Australia! He worked as a freelance writer for local newspapers in before blogging. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.