The Year 25: A Quarter Life Analysis
It wasn’t until my boyfriend and I were driving home from the gym today that it really occurred to me that a quarter of my life is now behind me. As it was the eve of my 25th birthday, I was asked a simple question that made me stop and think; “How does it feel to no...
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The Beauty of Being Gay and Single in Los Angeles
So many of us seem to constantly be yearning for the things we don’t have. When we’re single, we romanticize the idea of being in a relationship, having someone to come home to at the end of a long day. When we’re taken, we fantasize about the freedom we once had to...
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Chemsex: 4 Things You Should Know
It should come as no surprise that the rates of substance abuse in the gay community are significantly higher than the general population. Whether this is a behavioral response to years of dealing with homophobia and discrimination, or a product of the party scene...
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Are Gay Bars Bad for Gay Relationships?
The Dilemma An ongoing argument exists in our community over whether gay bars pose a threat to gay relationships. The idea here is that by continuing to frequent these bars and clubs, gay couples increase their vulnerability to a multitude of issues related to...
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Gay Asians and Potatoes: 5 Responses to The Angry Homosexual
As a white gay man who has never experienced what it is like to be a racial minority, I want to begin by recognizing the frustration that many non-white gay men experience on a daily basis in our community. Whether this is translated through direct racist comments,...
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Men for Men: Geosocial Mapping & User Experience
If you are reading this article you probably stumbled upon it by by searching for keyword combinations like “men for men.” A term often coupled with actions such as “looking,” this phrase is often characterized by men who are seeking other men for sex, however it...
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Wishes from the Wisdom Tree
On this smoggy, temperate Sunday afternoon, I led by boyfriend and very small dog up the long trek to the Wisdom Tree in Griffith Park. Having endured the transitional period that marked the end of my steady and secure employment at a law firm, to my first week ever...
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Do You Deserve It? The Science Behind Self-Indulgence
Do you remember the last time you rewarded yourself for the hard work you put into a project, an intense gym session, or a week of adhering to a super clean diet? Perhaps you indulged by treating yourself to your favorite ice cream spot or pizza joint. Maybe you...
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A Daily Happiness Schedule: 6 Simple Tips
We experience happiness when we feel contentment, pleasure, and a consistent sense of purpose in our lives. What seems like an abstract phenomenon can be inspired by the most simple events, and taken away just as easily. Although our specific passions and interests...
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The Headless Torso: Communicating on Gay Apps
The emergence of location-based dating applications such as Grindr, Tinder, and Jack’d, has forever changed the way we as a minority group are able to communicate with each other. We utilize these tools for meeting new friends, finding potential dates, locating...
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Gay Men and Sexual Dimorphism
Researchers from Harvard’s department of Psychology performed a study back in 2009 that measured the attractiveness of different faces in both gay and straight sample groups. Although they found that straight and gay men did not agree on the attractiveness of the same...
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“Party Friends” vs. “Clear-Weather Friends”
As gay men we are keen and savvy partygoers, often planning out our social events and associated attire months (or even years) in advance. Many of us plan our social lives around the general interest of our close friends, those we see and speak to several times every...
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